Tag: consistent

Ordinary World – Trapped in the ‘Shoulds’

Rafael sat in a gray office, his fingers stiff from typing budget reports for a company he didn’t believe in. He had been promoted twice, was paid well, and was praised for being “dependable.”

At night, he lay awake, feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted, frustrated, and unfulfilled.

He had grown up hearing phrases like, “Choose a stable career. Work hard. Don’t complain.” He adhered to this advice, even though he longed to paint. He yearned for the canvas and the brushes, eager to see what he could create as his brush came to life upon touching the surface. He craved more color in his life. Each day, he felt like a battery slowly losing its charge. He began to wonder if this was all life had to offer: obligations, expectations, and spreadsheets.

Call to Adventure – A Spark of Response

One afternoon, during his lunch break, he passed a street mural in progress. A man with headphones was painting bold strokes of orange and violet on a brick wall. Rafael felt a tightening in his chest as the colors vibrated in his bones.

Uh-huh.

The sound caught him off guard. It wasn’t just a thought; it was a feeling, a deep “yes” resonating from his gut.

He stood there for 10 minutes, mesmerized. Perhaps he should quit his job and pursue art full-time.

Refusal – “It’s Not Practical”

However, by the time he arrived home, doubts began to overwhelm him.

“I can’t simply quit my job to pursue painting and passion. That’s not how the world operates.”

He viewed it as a fantasy, something only reckless people pursued. Moreover, he couldn’t afford to live his life in that manner.

Still, something had shifted.

Mentor – Discovering the Sacred Yes

A week later, Rafael received an invitation from a friend to attend a Human Design workshop. He was only partially engaged, half-listening while scrolling through his iPhone, when the speaker made a statement that caught his attention: “If you’re a Generator, your power lies within your Sacral. When your gut says ‘uh-huh,’ that’s your truth speaking.”

He looked up. This wasn’t B.S.; he knew it was real.

The presenter continued, “You’re not here to figure life out; you’re here to feel it. You respond to life because that’s how your energy turns on.”

Something inside him clicked.

Crossing the Threshold – The First Yes

That night, Rafael took out an old sketchpad from high school and began to draw. He started with just lines, then added color. Time seemed to dissolve.

Uh-huh.

He didn’t quit his job, but he began to say yes to things that made him feel alive: attending a local art class, taking weekend hikes, and unplugging for the evenings.

He began to say no to anything that didn’t bring him joy.

Tests, Allies, Enemies – Learning the Hard Way

However, old habits are difficult to change.

A friend asked him to volunteer for a community fundraiser. His mind said yes, but his body said no.

He chose to ignore it.

Three weeks later, he was managing logistics for the fundraiser, staying up late, and experiencing mental burnout again. Frustration returned like an unwelcome pest.

The fundraiser itself wasn’t the issue; the problem was saying “yes” without checking in with his Sacral. His Sacral Center would have said “no!” Rafael’s real feelings about the project had been ignored, had not even been asked about.

Approach – Pruning to Find the Spark

Rafael started refining his process.

He stopped overcommitting and began to focus on what inspired him. He made sure to follow his Sacral response.

He realized that what energized him was more than just creating art; it was living a life immersed in a state of flow, where creative problem-solving, color, movement, and joy were all present.

At work, he discovered moments that ignited his passion: redesigning reports with visual tools and mentoring younger employees.

Ordeal – Burnout and the Breaking Point

Then came the project from hell.

His manager assigned him the responsibility of leading a team to restructure an entire project, which came with immense pressure due to tight deadlines. The approach had already been determined; he had no creative input whatsoever.

Rafael wanted to say no. His body screamed un-unh.

He agreed to take on the leadership opportunity, seeking approval and to fulfill expectations of what he “should” do.

Three months later, he collapsed into his bed, unable to move for several days. His doctor warned him, “You’re more than tired; you’re emotionally depleted.”

Rafael had arrived at a point of no return.

Reward – The Deep Yes

After he recovered, Rafael decided to take a two-week break.

During a solitary hike under a golden sky, he could feel his vitality returning. His interest in life was renewed. He could feel it deep in his bones.

He started painting once more. His ideas flowed freely, and time seemed to disappear.

And for the first time in years, he felt it: satisfaction.

Not relief. Not escape. Satisfaction. A full-body YES.

“This,” he whispered, “is what I’m here for.”

The Road Back – Choosing from the Sacral, Not the Mind

Rafael didn’t blow up his life.

He simply started saying no more often.

He shifted roles at work, selecting projects that he was not responsible for managing, allowing him to sit undisturbed in his cubicle and focus on the project design.

He listened to his intuition and pursued what felt right, and it worked.

Resurrection – Magnetic and Aligned

His demeanor shifted noticeably.

People noticed that his presence was calm yet electric; he now moved with ease where he had once rushed.

Work no longer drained him; he had emotional, mental, and physical energy left at the end of each day. He had plenty of energy to dedicate to his art. He laughed more and slept better.

He stopped chasing after things, and life began to unfold.

He was no longer just a worker; he had become a master in motion.

Return with the Elixir – Teaching the Way of Response

Rafael now teaches others how to trust their instincts.

Not through strategic presentations or inspiring quotes, but by authentically living his truth.

He mentors other Generators.

He asks them yes/no questions to trigger their Sacral.

He tells them:

“Mastery isn’t just a mindset; it’s a muscle. You develop it through response, not force. Pay attention to your body; it already knows what it needs.”

He paints, teaches, and works.

And he’s satisfied.

Not because it’s easy, but because it’s right.

 

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