No matter how much we strive to live with integrity, we will inevitably face challenges and setbacks. Even if we become fully self-actualized and have various tools to help us regain our balance, we will still experience pain from time to time. It’s simply a part of life that we cannot avoid. To address this, I have developed a process for navigating through pain, and I hope you find it helpful.
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While we recognize that our ability to empower ourselves and undergo transformation stems from truly loving ourselves and establishing healthy boundaries, merely standing up for our right to exist and to co-create with all of life won’t eliminate life’s painful experiences or quickly resolve the pain we inevitably have to process afterwards. Here are some suggestions for navigating the intense emotional pain that will occasionally invite itself into our lives for an often unpredictable duration:
• Stand before the pain; see it and feel it without resistance, and create a container that is deeper and wider than the pain itself so that you encompass it. From here, embrace it, pulling it deeply into yourself. Allow yourself to experience the pain fully.
• Acknowledge pain as a distinct entity, separate from yourself, possessing its own vital, energetic existence, purpose, and evolutionary process.
• Do not judge the pain; have compassion for it, if you can. If you can, express love to it.
• Do not judge yourself for having the experience of deep, and seemingly endless, pain.
• Recognize that pain serves a purpose greater than itself and beyond your individual experience.
• Anticipate discovering valuable insights by embracing and acknowledging your pain.
• Trust that Divine Grace can encompass all of you and your pain.
• Embrace the creative opportunities that can arise from profound disappointment.
• Trust that life is on your side and that creation loves you. From here, gently anchor yourself in the belief of a bright and happy future.
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- To develop a self strong enough to hold your pain, try expanding your personal energy field to the boundaries of the room you’re in, and even beyond, into the world, as much as you feel comfortable doing so. Your energy field can stretch as far as you allow it to. There are no limits in this process.
- Make a profound connection to the Source — Mother/Father/God who created you — can begin with prayer. Talk to God/Tao/Highest Source. Open the line of communication through an audible conversation, which is easier than quieting the mind.
- Connect to your Divinity.
- Discover how expansive and big you really are inside the context of your past, present, and future.
- Realize your connection to all of life.
- Acknowledge your unique place in the web of life.
- Develop a deepening sense of the fragility, tenderness, and profound beauty of life.
- See your connection to the remarkable capacity of life to remake itself and to transform any experience into something more/ higher.
- Develop a capacity to see pain as the spice among the many ingredients of which the delicious soup of your life is made.
- See your capacity to see the fruits that can be harvested from the pain.
- Develop the skills and capacities that will keep your life aligned with your North Star (that is, your highest, overarching intention for love and service).
- Find your capacity to be still and to be silent.
It is also important to talk to your trusted friends. They see you and love you, and they will witness your pain with you.
You might consider engaging a professional counselor, therapist, or coach.
Be aware that devas, elementals, and spirit guides are available to assist you. They are masters of energy and can help transmute it. Allow them to aid in your transformation with their specialized knowledge. You can speak to them out loud, expressing your gratitude and sharing your concerns. Ask for their help and let them know how you would like to utilize their unique resources. After that, pay attention to your intuition and be on the lookout for signs and messages. These can come from various sources, often in unexpected ways.
Soul retrieval can help recover fragmented pieces of yourself. If you do not know how to journey, it’s recommended that you have a Shaman do it for you.
Energy work (chi gong, Reiki, massage, etc.) can break the stagnation of stuck energy; movement and flow will restore happiness.
Focus on creating happy experiences—spending time with those who see and love you; doing things that bring you joy, such as your personal forms of creative expression, your fun activities, and your service to others.
Repeat this healing HO’OPONOPONO mantra:
I’m sorry, [your name]
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
AND
I’m sorry, [the name of another person, others, or situation]
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
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