What do you need to have your life be like at this time?
Feel into what that feels like.
Is it OK for you to be where you are right now?
It is important to honor what aligns with you and to follow what feels right. Even if it doesn’t inspire anyone! What is important is for you to honor your energy. Where you need to be right now is not where you will stay. The most critical thing for you is to be honest about what you need at this time and what you need to let go of. It is really all right to let go of the pressure to make something happen. It is necessary. When we push and nothing changes, there is information here for you. What you are doing is not correct for you at this time.
First things first: take the time to check in with yourself. Are you feeling emotionally and physically nourished? Are you feeling well-rested?
It is paramount for you to stay in touch with the flow of your energy. When we push, we lose power. We lose our ability to discern what is correct for us. When we push, we are out of alignment with ourselves and what we need to sustain ourselves. When we push, we lose connection to our center and our self-awareness. In this state, it is hard to tell if what we are doing is helping us get to where we want to go and giving us what we need. Worse case, we start to feel afraid that we are losing our grip on life, on our ability to remain in control.
Sometimes it is time to just stop, to retreat, rest, and renew. When you no longer feel joy and excitement, when you are out of ideas or can no longer get behind the ones you had, it is time to re-evaluate what you are doing and how you are doing it. Perhaps it is not so much that what you are doing is not correct for you, as it is a matter of timing and the availability of your energy.
Only you know how long you need to be in retreat and what will rejuvenate you. Retreating does not mean that you stop paying your bills. Do what you must to keep yourself together and do not take on any more. Please do not pressure yourself to be amazing or believe that you must do something right now to turn things around, ignoring the fact that you have been spinning your wheels for some time.
Your right plan of action will reveal itself when your vitality is restored and available to you. Your ideas and creativity will flow again.
We must always be our own advocates and allies; we are the highest authority for what is true for us at any time. Only you know what it feels like to be you and what you need. Find the pace that works for you at any given moment. It will shift from time to time and from project to project. Remember that how you do things and how fast you do them is unique to you and is influenced by how your energy naturally flows. You are not supposed to look like anyone else’s success or keep up with anyone else.
Please honor how you do things, and how you need to do them. You have a rhythm that is unique to you. How your energy flows is unique to you. It takes time and trial and error to truly know ourselves. Be patient with your process of discovering how you work and what works best for you. You will eventually find your personal rhythm of sustainability. You want to be in the flow that is your unique rhythm because this is where you feel good and where you are the most creative and productive. It is here that you are also at your most magnetic and radiant.
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Hello Gloria,
I want to say that I’m so grateful to have found your website and this post. I do a lot of researching on topics of self discovery, spiritual growth and life purpose. Your content stands out from the rest to me. You are a true guide on this vast internet. Your post above is perfect for me to hear at this time.
I am a projector. I followed my decision making strategy in leaving work as an administrative assistant at a corporation. It was a “good” job, but turned out to be way too much for me, mostly energetically. I worked very closely with a toxic co-worker and long story short it sadly was not the right environment for me. I was sad about it, but I also hit a wall and got burnt out. My life felt like it was spinning down and down and that scared me.
I am in my early 40’s, no children, married w/ 4 small dogs and a caretaker to my disabled mother. I really want to feel good in my life. That work made me feel awful. While I did follow my decision making strategy, I left without another job lined up. I believe that I will be fine. I am still “recovering” my energy, balance, and well being. It’s been close to 2 months. I feel like I’m experimenting with my decision making strategy, learning to trust it and also to live more aligned with my design.
I’ve been delving deeper into what to do next for a living. My desire is to be a spiritual wellness consultant. I have lots of education already built up in this area, as I’ve been studying for 10 years (on the side of my regular work). I feel very ready to take it to the next level, however, I still need to pay the bills and have steady work (for now). So, I’m starting again to look for work, but am trying to keep my design front and center, so I don’t make the same “mistakes”.
I love how supportive your words have been to me. They have made me feel very validated in my process … one that is quite different than most people. I’m coming to accept this more fully. I realize that I must, in order to move forward successfully.
Warmly,
Hi, Anne. Thank you so much for writing.
You were wise to leave your job. Even though aspects of it worked for you, there were too many toxic factors. Unfortunately, some toxicity is unavoidable. Not everyone is kind or self aware.
I know too many cases of Projectors who had to be practically carried out on a stretcher because they stayed too long. Most of these lovely, fragile beings learned they were Projectors after the fact. They tried to keep pace with Generators, and what the culture expects – much, much, to their detriment.
Once a Projector reaches an extreme threshold of burnout, the recovery often takes longer than two months. In extreme cases, 5 years of mostly laying in bed is not unusual. It is wonderful that you are feeling better after such a short time. I marvel that you have been able to work and care for your mom and for your sweet puppies, all at the same time.
You are still young, and clearly have vitality. I am happy for you! I do caution you to not take that for granted, and even though you feel good, to please pace yourself. As you know, you do not have that sustainable burning hearth fire of the defined Sacral.
I understand your interest in spiritual wellness, and congratulations for pursuing that alongside your income job. Many of us work it that way until we feel competent and knowledgeable enough to offer services.
It is my experience that one’s life purpose is not necessarily tied to how one also supports oneself financially. That may or may not happen. In many cases it does not, and people are made to feel like failures. Nothing could be farther from the truth! Your soul agreements and plans rarely have to do with making lots of money, although this is unique to each person. Check out my article on Finding Your Purpose – https://tinyurl.com/y2gqavnt
You will do well to continue to follow your excellent inner guidance and intuition as to how you organize your life. That will change over time as a result of many things.
Warm regards,
Gloria